Pop star Katy Perry recently told an interviewer that she would rather be seen as an inspiration than a role model. (This during a conversation about nudity in the pop world.) While I do admire Katy’s thoughts on the matter, I have to suggest that there isn’t much of a distinction.
You see, the people I’ve been inspired by in my life are generally the same people I look to for advise, philosophies, and a roadmap to end up in the places they’ve inspired me to go.
The realitiy is that whether you like it or not, as a leader, you are being watched with great scrutiny.
I’ve had managers tell me that you don’t have to lead by example. “That’s what training is for!” they counter, as though words could ever speak louder than actions. And what training can you give without skilled demonstration.
You are not managing.
Or worse, you are a poor manager.
Whether you like it or not, the leader sets the example. You are teaching your staff what you expect by demonstrating what they can expect from you.
So if you are late everyday, you are demonstrating an expectation that things don’t get started on time.
If you don’t talk to customers, you are setting the real value of those conversations to your staff, and they are free to write their own rules for their interactions – if they even plan on having them.
If you are aloof, off-putting, conspiratorial, a gossip, or love a two hour lunch, your staff will give you it all back in equal measure.
A good general doesn’t give an order he isn’t willing to fulfill himself. It wouldn’t have importance if he wasn’t! And his soldiers would know that.
I’m not suggesting you have to do the job your people are supposed to be doing. But I am saying you must be able to set the standard for their work when doing your own. You must hold your people accountable to that level of expectation. You must encourage them to get to your level, and you must give them reinforcement to get there. And when they finally work the way you do, you have to let them know you’re proud of them.
You’ve got to inspire and have the responsibility of a good role model.
Never let them see you not sweating.